Creating A Joyful Valentine's Day For Singles, by Kathy Dennis, LMFT
Valentine’s Day is often associated with romantic love and couples exchanging gifts and affectionate gestures. Those who are unattached can sometimes feel excluded. But it does not have to be that way; this day can also be a time of joy and celebration for singles. Instead of feeling left out or lonely, singles can embrace the opportunity to create a joyful Valentine’s Day for themselves.
The first thing to focus on would be self-care. This day provides an excellent chance to indulge in activities that bring happiness and relaxation. Is there a new book you wanted to read, but couldn’t find the time to start? Have you always wanted to check out a walking trail in your area but friends were always too busy to join you? Have you passed by those affordable flowers at Trader Joe’s because you did not have anyone to buy them for? Whether it’s treating oneself to a spa day, enjoying a favorite
hobby, or simply spending quality time alone, singles can use this occasion as an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth.
Celebrating friendships can be another way to make Valentine’s Day enjoyable for singles. Gathering friends for a fun-filled evening of laughter and games, or even organizing a potluck dinner can create lasting memories. This not only strengthens existing friendships but also fosters a sense of community among single individuals who may feel isolated during this time.
Volunteering or engaging in acts of kindness can bring immense joy on Valentine’s Day. Consider reaching out to local charities or organizations and offer your time and support. Helping others not only brings fulfillment but also reminds individuals that love extends beyond romantic relationships. American Psychiatric Association (2023) says “…kindness can increase happiness and self-esteem, while decreasing stress and emotional reactivity.”
Embrace the spirit of love by expressing gratitude towards family members or close friends who have been pillars of support throughout life. Writing heartfelt letters or spending quality time with loved ones allows singles to appreciate the love they already have in their lives. Practicing gratitude can help alleviate symptoms of stress and anxiety. Or why not create valentines for the important people in your life to help express your true feelings? Research has shown that crafting has many mental health benefits, including stress reduction, boosting mood, and improving self-confidence. Additionally, it can increase fine motor skills and decrease cognitive decline. (Norris, 2021)
Creating a joyful Valentine’s Day for singles involves focusing on self-love and self-care while celebrating friendships and engaging in acts of kindness. By embracing these ideas, singles can transform what might seem like an exclusive holiday into an occasion filled with happiness and contentment.
Works Cited:
Norris, K. (2021). The Unexpected Benefits of Crafting. Retrieved from Spectrum Health and Human Services:
https://shswny.org/the-unexpected-benefits-of-crafting/#:~:text=Research%20has%20shown%20that%20crafting,and%20also%20decrease%20cognitive%20decline.
The Mental Health Benefits of Simple Acts of Kindness. (2023, 2 17). Retrieved from American Psychiatric Association : https://www.psychiatry.org/news-room/apa-blogs/mental-health-benefits-simple-acts-of-kindness